Last weekend I went to the wedding of my headmaster's son. This was the first wedding I have been to in Tanzania and a really cool cultural experience that I had been hoping to have for a long time!
The wedding was, as many other teachers told me, not a typical wedding. It was very extravagant as weddings here go.
In the culture here it is common to take donations when you have a celebration. We had donations for the graduation ceremony, There were donations for religious graduation celebrations. Teachers often come around to gather donations for other weddings or celebrations. And this wedding was no different. Each guest was expected to make a donation of 15000 Tanzanian shillings (about $8.50). What in the US might be seen as a really tacky way to fund a wedding is very normal here. I made my donation about a month before the wedding after receiving a card inviting me to do so.
I arrived at the wedding a little late so I missed the church-y part, but I was just in time to hop into a bus and ride from the church to my headmaster's house where the party was starting. As we went, we drove very slowly at the back of a long caravan of other cars led by the bride and groom. Music was playing loudly from one car, and all the women in the bus I was in were singing wedding call and response type songs.
Here's a clip of one of the songs they sang (it's one of the few I could mostly understand since many of them were in tribal languages):
At my headmaster's house I was fed until I couldn't eat anymore and then was invited by some other teachers to dance. By some miracle, I didn't vomit. We danced for a bit and there were some announcements and speeches given, and then it was off to a new venue!
The setup at my headmaster's house.
The group of teachers from my school (and a few from neighboring schools)
The tribal elder receiving the groom as a man of the tribe
The stage
Between every programmed event/speech the DJ put on music and people would jump out of their seats to dance for several minutes until the MC cut it off for the next event. Lots of dancing!
The teachers and I had pitched in for a kitchen set (plates, silverware, bowls...) as a wedding gift and when the time came to present our gift to the bride and groom we jumped up and danced our way up to the stage passing the box of dishes around over our heads. The energy was ridiculous but contagious!